Hey Jenn!
Because, it sounds like your daugther's hair is very dense and thick and dry, I would suggest that you use the Curly Q products on your daughter's hair instead of the It's A Curl products only because they probably at this time wouldn't be moisturizing or smoothing enough for your daughter's very thick and dry hair.
The products that you were steered towards I personally know wouldn't be good for your daughter's hair. As, Mane and Tail isn't very moisturizing to African American hair and the Silken Child products unfortunately wouldn't have been the answer to your daughter's hair problems either.
So, I am glad that you are back and want to try the products in your daughter's hair. Now, there are Curly Q Sample Kit available. However, I must tell you that the products come in 2 ounce sizes and I feel that the Sample Kits are better off being purchased when someone is going on a trip and don't want to use bring their full-sizes along. As, the amount of usage that you get from the samples sizes are very very limited. But, if you still want to get a Curly Q Sample Kit anyways then the one that you should get for your daughter's hair is the Curly Q Sample Kit-The Essentials + Curly Q Custard.
Anyways, the products that I do suggest that I do recomend for your daughter's hair are:
Curly Q Curlie Cutie Cleansing Cream
Curly Q Coconut Dream Conditioner
Curly Q Moist Curls Moisturizer
Curly Q Custard
To detangle your daughter's hair, I would suggest that you use a brush like the Pink Baby Denman Brush (the one Curls sells) instead if a pick.
Also, to detangle your daughter's hair after you wash and condition it, I would suggest that you do the following:
1. Spray your daughter's hair with the Moist Curls all over and then massage it in.
2. Next, take a small section of your daughter's hair with your fingers, take the brush and detangle the section of hair(working from the bottom to the top).
3. After detangling the small section, then apply the Custard to it and make sure to thoroughly smooth it through.
4. Afterwards, you then just take another small section of your daughter's hair with your fingers and repeat the same steps all over again (detangle, apply product, smooth it through). If you get to a piece of hair that has already started to dry out, then just re-dampen it with the Moist Curls.
5. Lastly, you would just let your daughter's hair airdry. You can dress up her hair with colorful barrettes placed in the front of her hair or you can even use baby headbands to dress up your daughter's hair too. I do not recommend doing alot of manipulating when it comes to her hair, as she is just a baby and her scalp is very, very fragile. And, you could actually end up taking out a lot of your baby's hair out in the process.
In the mornings, to get your daughter's hair back to looking its best, you would first spray your daughter's hair all over with Moist Curls. You are only to spray enough to dampen your daughter's hair and first refresh it after her having slept on it all night. As, your daughter's hair should never be left dripping wet. After you have finished spraying your daughter's hair all over, then you would then just massage the Moist Curls thoroughly into your daughter's hair. Next, you would apply small amounts of the Custard to your daughter's hair and you would make sure to throughly smooth it through. Lastly, you would take the Baby brush and lightly detangle the ends of your daughter's hair.